Thursday, May 02, 2013

Choices: Molding our Homes and Lives

From Dawn Antigua
  1. Why and How to Offer Choices
    • Why? develop inernal motivation, build indpendence
    • How:
      • Limited choices - Don't allow your limit or buttons to be pushed with an exorbitant amount of options.
      • Follow through!!! - Only offer options you will carry out and be sure your "team" (spouse, babysitters, teachers, etc.) are informed and support you in following through.
      • Logical consequences - Make options related (Ex. If you eat broccoli, you can have frozen yogurt too, or you can choose no broccoli, nor dessert).
      • Make the BEST choice ENTICING - teach them life is truly win-win or lose-lose. That is Heavnly Father's plan.
      • Set your child up to succeed
  2. Patterns for Offering Choices (models from our Eternal Father)
    • Genesis 2:16-17
      • Invitation to make good choices (multiple options provied) - "any tree,except..."
      • Forbid bad choice and name the negative consequence - "just not that, or you'll die"
    • Proverbs Chapter 1
      • Good choice and consequence provided
      • Warning: bad choice and outcome named
      • Re-mntion of good choice and positive outcome
    • Malachi 3:10-11
      • Invitation to make good choice ad consequence provided
      • Encouragement/dare to try the good choice
      • More positive outcomes listed
  3. Making the Best Most Appealing
    • Genesis 2:16-17 "Andthe Lord God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat: But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die."
      • What are the choices? What are the consequences, stated or implied?
      • Alma 37:35 Learn wisdom in thy you must teach wisdom to the very young.
      • Notice and support your children's interests and talents. Supplement and promote healthy interests. Also, identify your children's weaknesses and lovingly help them strengthen those as well.
      • Validation: As you engage your children in activities athome, remember responsibilities (chores) and service arecritical pars of helping them feel like contribting membrs of the family and society as a whole.Elder Ballad reminded us in the last General Conference, that like the bee who makes just 1/12 tsp. of honey in its lifetime, each member of yur family and God's family is important and has a meaningful role.
      • Self-reflection: What do I do and offer to keep my children engaged in worthwhile activites at home?
      • How do I model, for example, what do I do in my free time?
      • Am I living (demonstrating) a journey of persona development ad learning?
  4. Thinking Things Through
      • By offering choices and naming the outcome, we help children, ho developmenally are not prone to consider anything more than the immediae outcome, to do so.
      • By listing choices and outcomes, we as parents have to think the scenario through an discipline ourselves to carry out consequence.
      • Self-reflection: We teach through modeling (whether it is intentional or not). Consier, wat is the main take away lesson my children are gaining from our hoe and lifestyle?
      • 3 Nephi 30:1-2 takeaway: Follow Christ and turn from sin, "that ye may be numbered with my people"

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